Malignant Self-love: Narcissism (and Everything Sam Vaknin and Narcissism…Abuse, Healing, Self)

Malignant Self-love: Narcissism by Sam Vaknin

In 2016, I watched Sam Vaknin’s videos (you will find them under Videos on my main page) and bowed my head down and cried. I guess writing Book 9 I had some other things to learn because I wasn’t finished with the narcissist.

Here you will find everything else Sam Vaknin put out and he put out a lot! You can find just about every topic that’s on your mind when it comes to the narcissist. Of course, Sam Vaknin is a narcissist, so he should know what he’s talking about.!

[Included Here: Book Edition Links: Paperback and Kindle; CD/Mp3 Links: Music; Teacher/Student Guide Links; Movie/Documentary Links; Additional Reads Links; and Inspirational Gifts Links (Great Gifts!).]

About: (Borrowed from Amazon.) The full text of Sam Vaknin’s classic, groundbreaking bible of NARCISSISM and NARCISSISTIC ABUSE, now in its 10th edition. Tips and advice as well as the most complete clinical background. Narcissistic Personality Disorder and its effects on the narcissist, the psychopath and their nearest and dearest in a variety of settings: the family, workplace, in Church, the community, law enforcement, and politics. 100 frequently asked questions and two essays – a total of 730 pages! Updated to reflect the new criteria in the recent fifth edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM).

You are not alone! Are you abused? Stalked? Harassed? Victimized? Confused and frightened? Were you brought up by a narcissistic or psychopathic parent? Married to a narcissist or a psychopath – or divorcing One? Afraid your children will turn out to be narcissists or psychopaths? Want to cope with this pernicious, baffling condition? OR: Are you a narcissist or a psychopath – or suspect that you may be one…this book will teach you how to cope, survive, and protect your loved ones!

Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited is based on correspondence since 1996 with hundreds of people diagnosed with narcissistic and antisocial personality disorders (narcissists and psychopaths) and with thousands of their suffering family members, friends, therapists, and colleagues. The first ever book about narcissistic abuse, Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited offers a detailed, first hand account of what it is like to have Narcissistic Personality Disorder. It contains new insights and an organized methodological framework. The book comprises more than 100 Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs) regarding relationships with abusive narcissists and the Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

What is a personality disorder? When the personality is rigid to the point of being unable to change in reaction to changing circumstances – we say that it is disordered. Such a person takes behavioral, emotional, and cognitive cues exclusively from others. His inner world is, so to speak, vacated. His true self is dilapidated and dysfunctional. Instead he has a tyrannical and delusional false self. Such a person is incapable of loving and of living. He cannot love others because he cannot love himself. He loves his reflection, his surrogate self. And he is incapable of living because life is a struggle towards, a striving, a drive at something. In other words: life is change. He who cannot change cannot live.

The narcissist is an actor in a monodrama, yet forced to remain behind the scenes. The scenes take center stage, instead. The narcissist does not cater at all to his own needs. Contrary to his reputation, the narcissist does not love himself in any true sense of the word. He feeds off other people, who hurl back at him an image that he projects to them. This is their sole function in his world: to reflect, to admire, to applaud, to detest – in a word, to assure him that he exists. Otherwise, the narcissist feels, they have no right to tax his time, energy, or emotions.

The posting of Malignant Self Love – Narcissism Revisited on the Web in 1997 has elicited a flood of excited, sad and heart rending responses, mostly from victims of Narcissists but also from people suffering from NPD. This is a true picture of the resulting correspondence with them. This book is not intended to please or to entertain. NPD is a pernicious, vile and tortuous disease, which affects not only the Narcissist. It infects and forever changes people who are in daily contact with the narcissist. In other words: it is contagious. It is my contention that narcissism is the mental epidemic of the twentieth century, a plague to be fought by all means. This tome is my contribution to minimizing the damages of this disorder.

Book Editions:




Malignant Narcissism (Instrumental)

Teacher/Student Guides:

WORKBOOK (Tests and Exercises) Toxic Relationships: Abuse and its Aftermath (Kindle)


I, Psychopath (Amazon Prime)

I, Psychopath (DVD)

Additional Reads:

Abuse, Trauma, and Torture – Their Consequences and Effects (Kindle)

Archives of the Narcissistic Abuse Study Group: Excerpts and Case Studies (Paperback)

Confessions Diary of a Narcissist (Kindle)

Coping with Stalking and Stalkers (Kindle)

Essays on God and Freud (Paperback)

How to Cope with Narcissistic and Psychopathic Abusers and Stalkers (Paperback)

How to Divorce a Narcissist or a Psychopath (Kindle)

How to Recognize a Narcissist or a Psychopath on Your First Date, before It is Too Late (Kindle)

I Want My Narcissist and Psychopath Back!: I Miss Him So Much, It Hurts! (Paperback)

I Want My Narcissist and Psychopath Back!: I Miss Him So Much, It Hurts! (Kindle)

Look Me in the Eye: Caryl’s Story about Overcoming Childhood Abuse, Abandonment Issues, Love Addiction, Spouses with Narcissistic Personal (Paperback)

MindGames: Short Fiction about Bizarre Mental Health Disorders (Paperback)

Mini Dictionary of Mental Health and Psychology (Kindle)

Narcissistic Abuse: A to Z Narcissism and Narcissistic Personality Disorder Encyclopedia: The Narcissism Bible (Kindle)

Narcissistic Abuse and Narcissism FAQs: Frequently Asked Questions about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse in Relationships (Paperback)

Narcissistic Abuse: From Victim to Survivor: How to Survive Relationships with Narcissists and Psychopaths (Kindle)

Narcissistic And Psychopathic Leaders (Kindle)

Narcissistic and Psychopathic Parents And their Children (Paperback)

Narcissistic and Psychopathic Parents And their Children (Kindle)

Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) and Other Mental Health Issues (Co-Morbidity and Dual Diagnosis) (Kindle)

Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) Catechism (Kindle)

Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD): The Facts (Kindle)

Narcissistic Supply: The Narcissist’s Drug (Kindle)

Narcissism and Psychopathy – Guides to Issues (Kindle)

Narcissism Book of Quotes (Paperback)

Personality Disorders Revisited (Paperback)

Personality Disorders: Use and Abuse of Differential Diagnoses (Kindle)

Poetry of Healing and Abuse (Kindle)

Psychological Defense Mechanisms (Kindle)

Psychological Signs and Symptoms (Kindle)

Psychology of Con-artists, Fraudsters, and Scammers (Kindle)

Recovering The Self: A Journal of Hope and Healing (Vol. II, No. 2) (Kindle)

Selfish Marriages in Narcissistic Societies (Kindle)

The Aging Narcissist: Three Perspectives (Kindle)

The Conundrums of Psychology (Kindle)

The Death of Sex and the Demise of Monogamy (Paperback)

The Decline of Empathy: In Business, the Workplace, and the Family (Kindle)

The Developmental Psychology of Psychopathology (Paperback)

The DSM V and the Concept of Mental Illness – Lecture Notes and Articles (Kindle)

The Inverted (Covert) Narcissist Codependent (Paperback)

The Inverted Narcissist (Narcissist Codependent) (Kindle)

The Lonely and Recluse Narcissist: Comorbid Narcissistic and Schizoid Personality Disorders (Kindle)

The Misogynistic (Women-Hating) Narcissist (Kindle)

The Narcissist and the Psychopath in the Workplace (Kindle)

The Narcissist and Psychopath in Therapy (Paperback)

The Narcissistic and Psychopathic Criminal (Paperback)

The Narcissist’s Mother (Kindle)

The Narcissist’s Psychosexuality (Kindle)

The Psychology of Serial and Mass Killers (Kindle)

The Suffering of Being Kafka (Kindle)

The World of the Narcissist (Paperback)

Toxic Relationships: Abuse and its Aftermath (Paperback)

“…Until You Die”: The Narcissist’s Promise (Paperback)

Violent, Vindictive, Sadistic, and Psychopathic Narcissists (Kindle)

Women in Relationships with Narcissists and Psychopaths: Mates, Spouses, and Intimate Partners (Kindle)

Inspirational Gifts:

(Accessories) Self is Where The Narcissist Is Not (Mouse Mat 9.5″ x7.9″ Mouse Pad)

(Books) The Narcissism Series: 16 Books about Narcissistic Abuse (Kindle)

(Clothing) I Am UNBREAKABLE ISurvived Narcissist Attitude Shirt

(Clothing)Domestic Violence Awareness Shirt For Survivors – Narcissist

(Clothing) Domestic Violence Awareness Shirt For Survivors – Narcissist

(Clothing) Narcissist cotton T-Shirt funny saying sarcastic novelty

(Clothing) Never Argue With Someone Who Believes Their Own Lies

(Home Decor) Divorced The Narcissistic Asshole Womans Rant (6×6 Iron on Heat Transfer for White Material)

(Journal) Divorced The Narcissistic Asshole Womans Rant (Mini Notepad 4 x 4 inch)

(Kitchen Ware) Divorced The Narcissistic Asshole Womans Rant (15oz Mug)

(Kitchen Ware) How Many Narcissists Does It Take To Change A Light bulb? Coffee Mug