A sample from Book 8
Quiets in Storms
living only once
one...one long moment
choices to pound
determines ways bound
silence the rush‒
eyes in storms
which hat worn
determines coming forms
stay in hate's way
or let go
talk...talk a lot
let life know
trust in God†
or in silence
life in compliance
given chance to bounce
live in it
or from coveted walls
let it stall
(November 14, 2015)—I’m told I talk too much, that I should just listen—be silent. I’m told I often preach, that giving advice is a turn off. Is it? Is being silent better? For whom? A lot of times, I live in a teacher’s frame of mind. I have always had that inner feeling of wanting to make other’s lives better. Is that a bad thing?
If I became a doctor, instead, it would be my job to tell a person what to do, what not to do, to make their well-being better. If I became a pastor, it would be my job to direct my congregation to do better, etc., etc. I’m neither.
As we grow older, we learn many things from experiencing, reading, learning, listening, etc., etc. What really is the difference between studying years and years to be a doctor or pastor or teacher or mother or the elder of the young? If you really look at it, there is no difference. Each specialty we learn is exactly that—a specialty.
Would you want a doctor to not tell you their opinion? Just because a person doesn’t have a PhD or specialist behind their name doesn’t mean they don’t have the expertise or experience to give advice. I think it’s hogwash when someone says no one wants to hear your opinion or advice. We all want to hear it. Most of us are just not willing to ask for it or accept it. That’s free-will—an individual thing.
People are always giving me advice or telling me what I should and should not do. One of the biggest things—don’t give other people advice—yet there they are giving me advice, telling me what to do. So, my free-will, even if it’s shunned by some, is to continue giving my insight, especially, to the young as I grow older.
For some of us, it is not wise to be silent. Part of who we are is given to us naturally. Not everyone is comfortable giving advice. Not everyone is comfortable taking advice. For those of us who feel comfortable giving advice, why hold it in? We are made this way for a reason. I’m made this way, yet I’m placed in a world where those around me see it as an issue I must correct. As I see it, it is the normal world teachers are in every day. Experiences teach us personally, but can also benefit others. Why not use those experiences to do just that? Why does the willingness to share offend some?
When I see people still going in circles with the same issues they had 10, 20 years ago, it makes me wonder why? Why not try and better yourself?—is my inner question. It is never too late to better one’s self. Never. We are only given one life. To continue on without one iota of change, without seeking a better way, what difference, in the great big scheme of things, do we make? What are we leaving behind to better others’ experience?
Personally, I’ve been down a long road. One which I had to struggle to better myself. Sure, many have been down similar roads. I chose to take all that I saw and learn and use it to help others.
Others choose to just bury it and forget, move on, and that’s their personal choice. Just because a person chooses to use their experiences to help others doesn’t mean they are still stuck in their experience. It means they moved beyond the experience, and gained the strength to face the experience, see the experience as a tool to use. Life is about personal choices.
We make our choices based on many things. Those many things often involve advice, knowledge of others. We are given one life—just one. What we do with this one life is our choice. Choosing to help others, in my eyes, anyway, is an admiral choice. Every single job I’ve held was in public service (helping people)—it isn’t a shocker that I write advice (helping). So, do you. A lot of people will not understand. It’s not for them to understand. Love the skin you’re in.
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Additional Readings On Improving Self and Going After That Dream
(Each page has loads of additional books (in every format), videos, instruction materials, and inspiration gift ideas.):
A Christmas Carol by Charles Dickens
A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life’s Purpose by Eckhart Tolle
A Woman of Substance by Barbara Taylor-Bradford
Become a Better You: 7 Keys to Improving Your Life Every Day by Joel Osteen
Beloved by Toni Morrison
Fearless by Max Lucado
Fifty Shades of Grey by E. J. James
How Not to Be Afraid of Your Own Life by Susan Piver
How Successful People Win by Ben Stein
How To See Yourself As You Really Are by The Dalai Lama
Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead by Sheryl Sandberg
Love is Letting Go of Fear by Gerald G. Jampolsky, M.D.
Ship of Gold in the Deep Blue Sea by Gary Kinder
Shop Class as Soulcraft: An Inquiry into the Value of Work by Matthew B. Crawford
The 4-Hour Workweek: Escape 9-5, Live Anywhere, and Join the New Rich by Timothy Ferriss
The Third Wave: An Entrepreneur’s Vision of the Future by Steve Case
Who Moved My Cheese? by Spencer Johnson, M. D.