‘Alone’s Passion’

Being Single Is Better Than Being Abused!

A sample from Book 8

(December 4, 2015)—Being single is gratifying in so many ways and if you’re not single, you may wish for it. You don’t. Those who quickly find another after a failed relationship just wasn’t in love in the relationship. What I mean by that [is] if someone can walk away from a long-term relationship right into another, there wasn’t anything there for them in the first place. For the person in that relationship that had something there, they struggle with finding what will work again. I know. I’m there. Yes, I’ve had something similar to a relationship, but none of them were actually a relationship.

It’s hard to go there again, especially, when you’ve given your heart, mind, body to another and trusted that they would take care of it and they didn’t. It’s hard to give those things away again. If you’re sitting there envying someone who is single and you, yourself, are in a relationship, what’s wrong with you? Really. If he’s not beating you or abusing you in some other way, why not find whatever it was that began the two of you and work at it?

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‘Floating in Air’

Stress-Free Zone Ahead!

A sample from Book 8

(November 18, 2015)—I came back home after being gone two years thinking I wasn’t the only one who has grown. I was mistaken. Just because you heal, doesn’t mean others have. You can go through all the motions, all the therapy, all the crying and yelling, then the calming and settling. That doesn’t mean those you left behind will do the same. It’s a funny thing…life.

I stopped attending a church. You know…a building of worship. I wasn’t getting what I needed in a building. It wasn’t there that I found the truth of God. It was in heart. It was in the good book. It was in the understanding that if I didn’t reach out to Him, truly reach out to Him, then I would never actually find Him. I see all around me that people attend a building, but never actually get to know who God really is. Shame. We can live our lives the way we want. That’s a given.

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‘Quiets in Storms’

You Be You. Let Me Be Me!

A sample from Book 8

(November 14, 2015)—I’m told I talk too much, that I should just listen—be silent. I’m told I often preach, that giving advice is a turn off. Is it? Is being silent better? For whom? A lot of times, I live in a teacher’s frame of mind. I have always had that inner feeling of wanting to make other’s lives better. Is that a bad thing?

If I became a doctor, instead, it would be my job to tell a person what to do, what not to do, to make their well-being better. If I became a pastor, it would be my job to direct my congregation to do better, etc., etc. I’m neither.

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‘Ends of Ropes’

If They Did It Once, They’ll Do It Again!

A sample from Book 8

(September 20, 2015)—The [fifth] book in my collection about silent abuse is about the renewing of self. The Journey of this actually begins in Book 3, but healing takes a while. A cousin of mine told me it took her seven years after a 30+-year marriage. Another friend took only a couple years. I guess it depends on the person.

For me, there was a lot of confusion in my 20 years of marriage. What I learned at the end of it was the most chilling part, which, of course, led to these books. Silent abuse and all that entails. So, re-discovering self is very important and is repeated over and over from Book 2 to Book 5. As I said many times before, I did re-discover love. I fell hard and I fought for it, but the emotion of love covets what the heart doesn’t want to see.

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‘Dwelling’s ‘Back Then”

Move Forward: Body, Mind and Spirit, and Leave the Past In the Past

A sample from Book 8

(August 6, 2015)—Yes, I’m finding more time to post. I’m still reading 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do by Amy Morin. Chapter 7 titled ‘They Don’t Dwell on the Past’ inspired ‘Dwelling’s ‘Back Then’’.We all do it. It doesn’t matter the circumstances. Good or bad. We still dwell.

Morin says it’s good to dwell, but constantly dwelling impedes our ability to fully live in our present. I agree with this. Sure, we had some really good times in our past lives, but for those of us pass our 40s, that’s not the end of our experiences. When I listen to people my age talk about their past, you’d think that’s all there is. It’s not.

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‘Use It To Be It’

What ‘Not’ To Do When It Comes To Your Past!

A sample from Book 8

(August 8, 2015)—In Chapter 7 of Amy Morin’s book, 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do, she talks about leaving the past behind, but not totally. She tells a story about a woman who suffered childhood physical and sexual abuse. She says years later when the woman’s brother begin repeating this traditional way, the woman decided to take her personal experience and make a difference. She became a lawyer, and with a small grant, opened up a non-profit legal organization offering free help to break this traditional. What a wonderful thing!

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‘Keynotes of Woman’

Men: Satisfy Your Woman!

A sample from Book 8

(July 27, 2015)—There’s an odd thing happening to me: The opening of my total self when it comes to my sweet man. I analyze this as I do everything else and I woke up this morning with the idea behind ‘Keynotes of Woman.’

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‘Pity-Party Me Not’

Don’t Fall To the Devil’s Trap and Lose Yourself to Pity!

A sample from Book 8

Fear not, for I have redeemed you; I have summoned you by name; you are mine. When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze. For I am the Lord, your God, the Holy One of Israel, your Savior….Isaiah 43:2

Be self-controlled and alert. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. Resist him, standing firm in the faith, because you know that your brothers throughout the world are undergoing the same kind of sufferings, and the God of all grace, who called you to his eternal glory in Christ, after you have suffered a little while, will himself restore you and make you strong, firm and steadfast. To him be the power for ever and ever. Amen.1 Peter 5:10

(June 11, 2015)—In Battlefield of the Mind by Joyce Meyer, I learned about the wilderness mentality and its grave affects on our mind if we forsaken ourselves and not hand over our problems to God.

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‘Brave Hearts’

Before You Give Up On Yourself, Try Practicing Compassion!

A sample from Book 8

(March 12, 2015)—I feel a return. Those who know my writing well, understand what I mean. I’ve been writing nonstop since 4:30 a.m. this morning and I realized that I have been putting my energy in other things that aren’t as important as this…my gift.

I’ve always preached, if you want to call it that, to be true to one’s gift, and I feel slightly like a hypocrite for not practicing what I preach. Now that I have many more friends from all over the world here on Facebook, the building need in me to move forward with my writing has been increasing ten-fold.

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‘Wasted Not’

That Pain Is Not Wasted!

A sample from Book 8

(January 13, 2015)—This was the first of two pieces [I only posted ‘Wasted Not’ here.] I wrote 2015 New Year’s Day. It’s been quite a ride. No, I’m sure I’m not done with the healing. Towards the end of 2014, I’ve seen many things and heard many things that have made my toes curl, but I’ve noticed one particular thing about the woman in me: I’m done.

It came that simple. I’m done with whatever it was that put a veal over my face for nearly 20 years. It took me a bit by surprise. Even my therapist was surprised. Wow she said with a look I hadn’t seen on her face before, which confirmed my own surprise.

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