A sample from Book 7
All different shades! No one handles betrayal the same…or do we? We rage. We scream. We yell and cry. What happens after that? Depression. How you handle it is up to you. Many times…we don’t have a choice how that plays out. The following is from the Introduction of my 7th Book in My 12-Book Series.
“There are things you have to do to take care of yourself during this stage. You have to get out of it. I know showing you how I got through the initial shock of it, will help you make through alive!
…Julie Axelrod writes in her article ‘The 5 Stages of Loss and Grief’—
Depression: Two types of depression are associated with mourning. The first one is a reaction to practical implications relating to the loss. Sadness and regret predominate this type of depression. We worry about the costs and burial. We worry that, in our grief, we have spent less time with others that depend on us. This phase may be eased by simple clarification and reassurance. We may need a bit of helpful cooperation and a few kind words. The second type of depression is more subtle and, in a sense, perhaps more private. It is our quiet preparation to separate and to bid our loved one farewell. Sometimes all we really need is a hug. [The lost of a marriage, especially if it’s been a long marriage, imitates this. The love in the marriage has died, a death. This is the stage a person most needs outside help and understanding. They can no longer laugh it off, hide their pain in lies.]
The year 2014 was the year I had to pay my karma. You don’t go through the darkness unscathed. I was a Christian woman: i.e. church-going, devoted wife and mother. When so much is put on your plate at one time and you’re plunged into this oblivion of confusion, you tend to just do what it takes to survive.
You are going to make mistakes. You will not be yourself…not at all. As in all things, you must pay for those mistakes. And realizing the mistakes, realizing the reality of it all in general, sends you in a twisting mix of emotions that just doesn’t seem to want to let up. Although my Depression stage in the five stages of loss and grief shows its ugly face way before 2014, this year was the most difficult because, through counseling, I was forced to face that reality head-on.
Depression is the hardest stage to overcome. I was lucky I guess, in a sense, because God was always there for me. This year…2014…was my slow, guided walk to the light….”
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